Wednesday, February 25, 2015


"Having a close relationship doesn't mean you should give up being yourself. In fact, you may get irritated with those you love simply because you need some regular time apart, some breathing space. No two people have all the same interests, and it's not healthy to expect that to be the case. Do you allow and encourage yourself and your partner to pursue your own individual interests? Take some dedicated time for yourself and allow your partner to do the same. You'll have more to offer each other and the world as a result."

Patricia Spadaro-----Honor Yourself--The inner art of giving and receiving

Friday, February 20, 2015


Buddha was along for the ride last year. Strapped in his seat belt, he was safe and sound and ready for whatever might come his way. Life is full of suffering you know. And he has managed to make himself secure in the back seat and is along for the ride.

Life is like that. We sit down, we strap our seat belts on to keep us safe, and we hit the road in a capsule of steel. It's all fine until one day, unsuspecting, someone swerves into our lane and hits us from another lane. Was there anything I could have done to avoid that, I ask? Could I have seen that coming or swerved out of the way before my car was hit? All this is conjecture, of course. My car was not involved in an accident but how often do we cruise through life thinking that all is fine and good and WHAM...we are blindsided.

In the last week I have lost two friends very suddenly. Everyone was shocked by both deaths. We were not prepared for what we were to hear. And that's just the way that life is...a mystery. No matter how many seat belts we strap on to ourselves, no matter how braced we are in our "vehicle" (body), we are stunned when someone makes their transition and moves on to another realm. It's all a mystery. No one will ever really know what is on the other side of that door that remains open for just a second and then slams shut.

I have recently begun to question so many more things than I did when I was in my twenties, thirties, even forties and fifties. This year I turn 65. In some ways it seems like I am ready for what may come and in other ways I think that I have a lot of work to do still. I am striving to move forward, to make amends, to question the unknown and make peace with it. But it is not always dependent on what I choose to do. There is always another party that needs to accept my advances and if unwilling, there is nothing that I can say or do that will ever make any difference. Or so it seems.

It makes a difference to me. And really, that is all that really matters. I am strapped in, waiting for the long trip ahead, bracing myself for the bumpy ride ahead. I am on the downhill side of life and I know that it is going to be a bumpy ride! I might hit a few potholes along the way but if I brace myself, I will bounce right out and land safely. I might need a new tire or two or a new shock absorber (believe me...I could have used that shock absorber this week!)...maybe even a new horn to help me voice my opinion, a new set of windshield wipers to help me see the road ahead clearly...but I am strapped in and like Buddha...along for the ride.

I think that as long as I keep my options open for whatever I might find on this journey that I cannot help but end up safe and sound. And when that door opens and slams shut once I am through it, I will be prepared for the next journey that awaits me. Just like my friends Jeff and Joann.

May they make the journey with their eyes open and their hearts full. Their journey has just begun.

Thursday, January 1, 2015

New Year's Day reading

Today, I met a group of people at the Auburn Library outside in 37 degree weather to re-dedicate the Peace Pole that was installed approximately 14 years ago. Each year, this group meets and reads something that is representative of the diversity of our planet inhabitants and their belief systems. Sometimes we read something from the Jewish beliefs, the American Indian, the Buddhist, and many others. Today, I read the Humanist Invocation and it reads as follows:

"Let us rise each morning, and strive each day, to do only that which brings happiness and joy to others, and let us avoid doing things that cause others hurt and pain.

Let us use our minds and our reason to encourage behavior based on the mutuality and reciprocity inherent in human relationships, and let us always respect the dignity and worth of each other.

And let us, above all, love one another, not to obtain rewards for ourselves now or hereafter or to avoid punishment, but rather always to bring each other contentment and peace. May it always be so."

What a great tradition this is for me. I love waking up on the first day of a new year and knowing that I will affirm my belief along with a few other people, for a vision of world peace. Each years brings such tragedy and sadness but each new year brings along with it the possibility of something different arising from the beliefs of brave souls who choose not to perpetuate anger and hatred but only love.

I wish you all peace and happiness and the possibilities of finding peace within yourselves for others and being able to pass those feelings on to others. Forgive others from their trespasses, forget the anger and resentment, forget what it was that you stopped speaking to someone that meant the world to you. Is it really worth all the effort it takes to suppress the love that really wants to rise to the surface? Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me.