Monday, December 3, 2012

WHAT IF... woke up one morning and everything had changed? Would you know what to do, who to thank, who to make amends to (and on and on?)

Would you want your life to wither away and dry up, wizened and wrinkled?

These thoughts came to me today. I guess because of all the current happenings in my life I have had the chance to think more about them than usual. But, just like any other day...I do think about them a lot. Some people refer to me as being negative. I view myself as being a realist. I think about the possibilities, prepare for the worst, and hope for the best. At least then I am prepared mentally...I have an idea of how I will respond.

But, I have diverged from my original intent here. What I intended was to offer my apologies to any (and all) I have ever harmed or hurt in any way, ask for forgiveness, and hope for the best. I don't mean that if I had a stroke tomorrow I would want anyone I am not speaking to at the present time to feel guilty in any way and rush to my side and help the contrary. I would wish things to remain as they are but have them be aware that I forgive them (as I hope they would forgive me too) and know that life has just happened in a way that sometimes we all don't really understand.

We may not always understand the reasons why or how, but life has a way of working itself out in sometimes mysterious ways. Does that make me a bad person? Does that make YOU a bad person? Absolutely not. It just makes us human. And that's all anyone can ever be human is to be real.

It's nice to know that a person can wake up one day and realize that it is an important time to say what needs to be said. One just never knows what each day or moment holds. Take advantage of the time you have and say all that needs to be said, either in person or virtually. Eventually it will get to the right person at the right time. And if least YOU said what needed to be said. And that's all that one can hope for.

Don't wither away thinking that someone else has to make the first move. Take a step to preserve what it is you really need to say or do. Hips can be mended and so can hearts. Don't wither on the vine.


  1. Enjoyed the post. Lots of what you said also represents me. I always have to plan and be prepared. Thank you for an enlightening post. Happy Holidays.

  2. A few weeks ago, I found myself picking up the phone to call a friend with whom I'd had a falling apart almost a year and a half ago. I was scared, he was happy to hear from me and so we gently resumed our friendship. It feels good to have it healed....

  3. these are very thoughtful and caring words here - I wouldn't say that you are negative - many thoughtful people are perceived as negative - and that's only because they are thinking about things that other people prefer not to think about